Networking. For many, the word conjures images of awkward small talk, forced smiles, and the uncomfortable pressure to “sell yourself,” but it doesn’t have to be that way.

At a recent Lime Connect webinar, Rob Kim, Associate Director for Lifelong Learning at the University of British Columbia, challenged conventional notions of networking. With Lime’s Director of Professional Development, Rene Forsythe, leading the conversation, attendees explored how to reframe networking as a more comfortable and ultimately successful endeavor for both career and personal growth.

We highly recommend joining or logging in to the Lime Community Platform to watch the full recording and truly transform your approach to networking. Here are the highlights if you’re short on time.

1. Networking is a skill to practice

Rob emphasized that networking is a skill, not an innate talent. Like any skill, it improves with consistent effort. He encouraged a growth mindset, recognizing that even small, low-risk practices lead to major improvement over time.

2. Try asking for directions

Networking is asking for directions. Just as you’d ask for help on the street, you can use platforms like LinkedIn to “ask for directions” about career paths, companies, and roles.

Leverage LinkedIn for research: Follow companies and individuals, use search filters to explore roles, and check activity levels to gauge responsiveness.

The CARF Method for reach-outs:

• Connect: Send a short, specific note.

• Ask for Email/Questions: In-person or online, be concise and respectful of time.

• Reach Out: If they agree, prep your questions.

• Follow Up: Send a thank-you and share what you learned.

💚 Lime Connect’s platform is also a great place to explore member profiles and find connections in companies or roles that interest you!

3. Share the story you choose to share

Networking is sharing the story you choose to share and preparation is the key to feeling confident. Rob introduced two methods for crafting your narrative:

• The VSI (Values, Skills, Interests) Table: Identify your core values, articulate your skills/strengths, and explore your interests. This helps you build authentic stories.

• The LinkedIn Headline Exercise: Experiment with your headline to effectively convey your aspirations and value, such as “Title | Industry | Skills” or an “I help X achieve Y” statement.

4. Building trust and relationships

Perhaps the most impactful: Networking is building trust and relationships. When asked about positive networking experiences, attendees mentioned “building friendships,” “finding like-minded people,” and “gaining confidence.”

Networking isn’t just about finding a job; it’s about fostering relationships and discovering opportunities for mutual learning and support.